Free Live Masterclass · Thu 3rd Sept · 7:30pm
Reclaim Your
Energy.
A free live masterclass for men who know they're capable of more — and are ready to reclaim the energy that's been slipping away.
This masterclass is about what becomes possible when you stop letting porn run the show — and start directing that energy toward the life, the relationships, and the purpose you want to pursue.
Attend live and get
Break the Pattern — free.
Everyone who joins me live gets my Break the Pattern practice — the exact 6-step protocol to interrupt the urge in the moment and choose differently. Yours free, just for showing up.
Save My Free SpotIt's not about stopping. It's about what you're moving toward.
Every time you've used porn to escape — stress, boredom, loneliness, a hard day — it gave you something real. A release. A moment of relief. And then it left you flatter than before.
That's not a failure of willpower. That's exactly what a constriction-and-release model does: build, discharge, collapse, repeat. It was never going to fill you up — because that's not what it's designed to do.
This masterclass is about a different model entirely.
This is the shift this masterclass walks you through — from a model of constriction and release, to one of expansion. From a small match that flares and dies, to a furnace that keeps burning.
You want more
than just stopping.
Whether you're single or in a relationship, this work starts in the same place — your relationship with your own energy.
- — You sense there's more out there — when it comes to pleasure, connection, and intimacy — than what you've been settling for
- — You're tired of feeling drained and lifeless — and you suspect it's connected
- — You notice that the more you use, the more anxious or disconnected you feel around other people
- — You want your sexual energy to feel like yours — not something you're managing, suppressing, or ashamed of
- — There are things you actually want to build — work, goals, momentum in your life — and you can feel this quietly draining the energy that should be going there
And if you've already quit — or you're managing it but want to go further — this still has plenty for you. The shift from constriction to expansion matters whether you're on day one or day five hundred.
This masterclass is where that starts. Where it goes from here is up to you.
In this free live masterclass
One hour that changes how you understand porn, your energy, and what it actually takes to move beyond it.
The three reframes that change everything
The shifts in how you see this work that make moving away from porn possible — none of them about shame, willpower, or forcing yourself to stop.
Why porn is so physically hard to resist — and how to break the pattern
What's actually happening in your brain and body in the moment the urge hits — and the first practical step to interrupt it before it makes the decision for you.
The one thing every man who moves on has in common
Somewhere to direct the energy. This is the difference between white-knuckling and genuinely moving beyond porn — and why nothing works without it.
The path I take men through to move beyond porn for good
The complete approach behind my coaching work — so by the end you'll see exactly what the road forward looks like, and whether it's right for you.
The shift
What the work
actually changes
Before
Energy leaking toward a screen before you've made a conscious choice
After
That same energy redirected — into presence, into purpose, into the people who matter
Before
Shame cycling with the urge — each one feeding the next
After
The shame becomes fuel. The pattern becomes the doorway into the work
Before
Managing, suppressing, white-knuckling through
After
A genuine skill set — body-based, proven, built for the moment it matters
Before
Disconnected from your own body, numbed to real sensation and intimacy
After
Present in your body, available to the people you're with, alive to what's real
Before
Sexual energy as something to be ashamed of, controlled, or discharged
After
Sexual energy as your greatest source of drive, presence, and aliveness
Patrick Rafferty
Men's Coach · patrickrafferty.co.ukFor a long time I understood this work intellectually. I knew the neuroscience, the patterns, why it happens. What I didn't have was the real skill to meet the moment — the one where the urge arrives at full strength and you have seconds to do something different.
When I found the practices that actually worked — somatic, body-based, energy-moving work rather than suppression — something shifted. Not just with this habit. With how I carried myself. How present I was. How much was available to me in my relationships and my work when I stopped leaking energy toward a screen.
That's what I teach. Not shame. Not willpower. Not abstinence lectures. A genuine skill set, built from neuroscience and years of working with men one to one, for men who are ready to reclaim their energy and redirect their lives.
- Men's Coach & Facilitator
- Teacher, Tao Tantric Arts School
- BBTRS — Breathwork for Trauma Release & Stress
- Somatic Work · Parts Work (IFS)