"If I could just stop using &
feel like myself again"
Says you and countless other men trapped in the cycle of porn
You're looking for a way not to rely on porn
Maybe you've already tried cutting back, limiting your screen time, or even deleting all your bookmarks – and man, that felt like a win – for a little while, at least!
But the next week, there you were again, caught in the same old habit. Frustrating, right?
So when another tough day hits and you’re feeling the pull of stress, boredom, or just that old routine, you can’t help but think…
"What if I can't stop?"
Wait, before we spiral into negative thoughts let me assure you, you can definitely stop!
But before I show you how lets look at what you can gain from Saying No 2 Porn.
The Benefits of Not Using Porn
Quitting porn can lead to a significant boost in overall energy and enthusiasm for life. Get ready to feel more alive, focused, and able to engage with the world around you.
- Increased energy levels
- Improved sleep quality
- Enhanced physical performance
Without porn you are able to form deeper, more meaningful connections with yourself and others, whether in intimate relationships or everyday interactions.
- Healthier connect with yourself
- Deeper intimacy with others
- Better social relationships
Quitting porn often leads to a noticeable improvement in mental well-being, reducing anxiety, stress, and shame, alongside a boost in self-esteem and emotional resilience.
- Reduced anxiety & stress
- increase self-esteem
- improved emotional resilience
"ok, so can I stop using porn?"
the first step is to appreciate how powerful porn is and what it does to us...
To Stop Using Porn We Need To See It As A Drug!
The scary thing is, our brain responds to porn the same way as if it was a hard drug. This means we can easily get addicted to it, and many do.
I know this is heavy, but there are some positives, because treating it like a drug gives us a clearer path to getting off it.
Porn is a supernormal stimulus
Reward System, Especially Dopamine
Porn can be addictive because it creates a rush of pleasure in the brain, which makes you want more. Over time, your brain may need stronger content to feel the same level of satisfaction, creating a cycle of craving and seeking. This pattern can make it tough to break free, especially if your are prone to addiction, like many of us are.
Unresolved Pain
Makes Us Vulnerable To Relying On Porn
Unresolved pain or trauma can leave us searching for ways to escape or numb out, and porn can feel like an easy outlet. It offers instant relief and distraction, but over time, it can become a go-to coping mechanism. The more we rely on it, the stronger the habit becomes, making it harder to face the real issues underneath. Addressing that unresolved pain is key to breaking the cycle. But before we explore how to break the cycle let me address something I hear a lot from men I work with...
"But I don't think Im addicted..."
Of course, our habits or addiction to porn vary a lot.
But even regular use of porn can have pretty big consequences.
Here are some issues that men I work have mentioned when it comes to regular use of porn.
How Porn Can Impact your life.
Frequent porn consumption can lead to unrealistic expectations about sex and intimacy, which may diminish satisfaction with real-life sexual experiences. Some people find they struggle with arousal or satisfaction with their partners.
Daily porn use can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, or inadequacy. Many people develop a sense of dependency or self-judgment around their use, which can damage their self-worth and contribute to a negative self-image.
For those in relationships, excessive porn use can lead to a sense of disconnection, with many partners feeling neglected or replaced. It can create emotional distance, decrease intimacy, and make it challenging to form deeper, authentic connections.
Daily porn use is often linked with increased levels of anxiety, depression, and emotional instability. The habit can lead to a cycle of temporary relief followed by feelings of emptiness or dissatisfaction, potentially fueling negative mental health patterns.
Porn can serve as a quick escape, but this escapism often leads to procrastination or avoidance of responsibilities. For some, this creates a cycle of distraction and decreased productivity, impacting work, personal goals, and overall motivation.
Over time, the brain may become desensitized to the stimulation of porn, leading individuals to seek more extreme or novel content to achieve the same level of excitement. This can lead to further dependency and a distortion of healthy sexuality
“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours.” Gabor Mate
For lasting change we need to address the whole picture
- 3 Levels -
Body - Mind - Energy
Locating and processing
the emotional pain that often drives the urge to seek out porn for comfort is crucial.
Many people turn to porn to soothe feelings of anxiety, sadness, or stress, but this only offers temporary relief.
In our coaching sessions, we’ll use breathwork to identify and address the root of your emotional pain, allowing you to release those feelings in a healthier way.
By understanding and processing your emotions, you can break free from reliance on porn and discover more fulfilling ways to cope.
Building Willpower
to overcome reliance on porn starts with understanding how it affects your brain.
Porn rewires your reward system, making it harder to resist cravings.
In our coaching, we’ll work together to retrain your brain, helping you build mental strength and develop healthier habits.
With the right tools and strategies, you'll find the power to stay clear of porn and create lasting change in your life.
Healthy Relationship
with your sexual energy is essential to create lasting change.
Reliance on pornography often creates a cycle of shame that can significantly impact your life.
By shifting from shame to pride in your sexual identity, you can embrace who you truly are.
Rebuilding with self-love is crucial for staying free from porn and establishing strong, fulfilling connections with your romantic partners.
Together, we’ll work to cultivate a sense of confidence and authenticity in your sexual identity, paving the way for deeper intimacy and connection.
What's in Say No 2 Porn
Coaching Programme?
12 Coaching Calls
1: Intentions
2-5: Working with the body through breathwork to build capacity to process the reasons behind relying on porn
6-8: Working with the mind to build the will-power to make your goals achievable
9-11: Working with your life-force energy to building healthy relationships with desire for lasting change
12: Closing call for integration and celebrating success
3 Month Text Support
The journey can be difficult and it's important to know that you are not doing it alone. That's why you have text support with me when you need encouragement to stay on track and resit the craving to use again.
Access to Content Library
Get access to my library full on content to help you learn the theory behind getting over porn, practice breathwork, move energy and connect with your lifeforce energy in a healthy holistic way. These videos will be used as homework to keep you on track in between calls.
What's the investment?
The Process to make
sure this is right for you?
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Get started today and begin your journey is Saying No 2 Porn.
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Meet Your Coach
Patrick is an intimacy and relationship coach dedicated to helping men develop healthy, fulfilling connections with themselves and their partners. Certified in Tao-Tantric Arts, Patrick integrates the principles of Tantra and Taoism to empower his clients with tools to cultivate and channel their life-force energy. He also specialises in supporting men in overcoming pornography use, taking a trauma-informed, somatic approach to addiction recovery.
As a certified BioDynamic Breathwork for Trauma Release practitioner, Patrick is passionate about embodiment and breathwork, guiding individuals to release trauma and tension held in the body.
